I ran into a guy in the market the other day whose wife had absolutely no appreciation for his cooking. She did at one time, but over the years had become so accustomed to his always cooking great dishes that she now took it for granted. The husband loved to cook, but now was a little frustrated. What, he wanted to know should he do?
Could he have just explained how underappreciated he felt in the food department? Of course, but honestly my idea was way more dramatic & definitely more fun. So I suggested a 3-point plan that centered around him stopping cooking. But I suggested to stop slowly… a meal here, and a meal there. For example, “I just don’t feel like cooking tonight sweetheart, would you mind picking something up on the way home?” And then a few days later, do it again. But around the 3rd of 4th time of no cooking, I advised part two - not asking her to pick something up, but rather he should get something pre-made from a store, but make sure it was on the less-tasty side. “Oh well, they can’t all be winners” he would say.
And then part 3 would kick in – making some random and weird food. “I’m trying escargot with a Thai peanut & banana sauce tonight!”
Was it mean? I guess. Would it work? Who knows? But here’s the point: if you don’t cook, you don’t complain and you certainly must appreciate. It’s that simple.